New Year Resolution

Another year is ending, and as a stepping stone into the new year I hope to remind myself to write more often. It helps me to see how my thoughts evolved in time, and that is an interesting thing to watch! I know life happens, but it is important to look at ones own journey. For if it isn't the journey, what else are we doing here?

Our understanding of truth defines us

We are our greatest foe in growing. When I believe that I am the truth and the only truth, and anyone who does not agree with me has no place in my life, then that is when I become my own problem. We create our own limitations- limitations on our imagination, limitations on our outlook, limitations on our acceptance. We decide things outside our spectrum of truth cannot be a truth at all. We build a barrier around out truth. We hold that truth inside limiting its growth. Any change to what we believed as truth is perceived as a threat to our personality which we held dear until now. How do we overcome this? How can we look at world from outside our limitations? The secret is not to be the believer, but NOT to be the non-believer. Being a non-believer is a limitation. We stop ourselves short of that small bit of growth that could have opened the doors to many possibilities. A non-believer gives no room for a different truth; and it is always that different truth that gives us our growth. A different truth may not be an entire change in our truth, but a modification, sometimes an addition to what we have. Without this addition or modification how limited is our purpose. Every day we live is an experience, good and bad. We absorb both and we learn and grow with these experiences. Our understanding of these experiences defines us. Remember that it is not the experience that defines us, but our understanding of it, our perception of it. When we start editing the understanding with the barrier we created to hold our truth within, before we even evaluated it, we have chipped off some of the truth that would have been added to our truth. Our understanding of the experience is already prejudicial in that case. We should remind ourselves that each and every moment is a moment of growth. We create that growth through our understanding of what happens to us and those around us. This understanding is what will guide us to expand ourselves beyond the walls that we created around our truth.

Junction of choices.

What we are now is what we are meant to be. There is no other place or point that we were “supposed” to be. That just is how life is. If we had the cheat codes for the game, then what is the point in playing the game. If we know every expected outcome of our choices then how are we actually “living” life.

We have been to points of life where we made big choices. We traveled down a path. It cannot be undone. Walking back to the previous point in our life, last junction we passed, does not take away the experience you gained by the trip you had. You just went back to a previous stage where you are able to take another choice than the previous one. What is done is done. What we passed is passed. Walking back changes nothing. The experience from the trip tho does teach us things. Never feel sorry for the choices you made. The choices were true and right for what you believed in at that moment of choice. But what matters in the choice making is how well you listened to the truth that was whispered to you from your inner self.

Others advising you on choices are based on their truths. Their truths are not yours. But when you realize that the path you took does not hold your truth anymore, then you should travel back. Go back to that point of junction of choice where you can take a different path. The experience gained is never a waste. There are people who say that a wise one learns from others experience. But there are a lot of things that others cannot learn by just watching someone else’s experience. Take your time to make decisions, yes. And if you did listen to your inner self and made a choice then do not ever think you made a mistake. Remember there are no mistakes other than doing what you thought should be done and yet you do not do it. What more error can you do in your life more than actually not listening to yourself?

The life you live is yours. Others are living their life. They are taking care of theirs. Why should they live for you, and you live for them? We all have our own roles to play in this life. Roles that we must complete, roles that makes us us. Why try to play someone else’s role? Be the individual you are, and listen to your inner self and be brave to make choices. Choices that would make you grow, that brings you to perfection.

Living SEX

I have to say that one of the most taboo words is sex, even when sex is one of the most done thing in the world. How hypocritical! People looking at sex as something bad have created so much confusion in the society. It is true that we all love it, but most of the time the conditioning we have gone through makes us fear what we love- “sex”. The word itself creates a lot of desire in us, and also anti-desire.

We need to understand that we are sexual beings. It is natural for most of us. The craving is a part of who we are. All these conditioning of religions, society, everything created a dam inside us. The dam which stops our sexuality shouldn’t have been built in the first place. So suddenly when we cry out for complete sexual freedom that creates a lot of confusion, and problems. The dam was already built. Now what we can do is to let it open and let the sexuality flow, flow in a smooth manner. The dam needs to be destroyed slowly. It is when sudden sexual freedom is granted that one does not know what to do with it. He shows no obligation to himself or those around him. That is when he destroys himself with his sexuality. But when it is understood slowly, taking one’s own time, experiencing it in the true self, that is when the conditioning slowly disappears and one lives the sex life in a responsible creative manner.

All conditioning, all fear of sex goes away gradually. The conflict that was created down through centuries dissolves away. We start to see sex as a natural thing. We start to live the beauty of sex. If we understood life better, if people who talks about life had only understood life better, they would had said how beautiful sex was- not to be feared and hated, but to be loved and cherished. It is this unity of two that brings a new life into being.

Life and sex cannot be separated. One can say that he is free from all sexual thoughts with years of suppression, but does suppression mean freedom? We are truly free from sex when one understands sex completely. When we understand sex, there is no more suppression anymore. We see sex from a greater perspective. We see sex as one of the many paths that leads to a persons true self when practiced with responsibility, the pure consciousness.

Namaste.

One's Growth.

The growth in spirituality differs in different person. The personalities differ. One may be so wise and experienced while the other is so young. I am at the younger stage of my spirituality. The fight is going inside me; the fight between the consciousness and the mind. The harmony has to be reached. It takes time, patience and experience to reach there. One who thinks he reached there soon and thinks only of himself is a fool! He doesn’t see that that thought about his own self itself is a sign that shows his lack of wisdom.

Passion is a good trait but sometimes passion can make you blind to consciousness. Passion can do harm as much as it can do well. When one deals with passion one has to be careful and listen to the consciences inside. The stability has to be reached. The uncontrolled untamed passion can lead one to self destruction; his ability to listen to his inner self.

One reaches different levels by observing and experiencing and growing thru it. Growing doesn’t mean “use and spit” policy. Growing happens when you are able to learn something thru the experience. Times do come when we all feel unstable, and faith is us is what would guide us thru those times. The faith in ourselves, faith in our guide, our consciousness. When one listens to ones consciousness one will not be able to harm another. But then if we decide our mind to manipulate our beliefs then we may do harm to others as well. And also thinking of ourselves only is not about consciousness.. That trait is of selfishness... when we think of our own growth; and nothing else! We may not be able to make another grow, but we can certainly show a path, an example.

There was a time when I believed that another can make you grow. Not anymore. I now believe that another cannot make us grow but us ourselves. What we gained is not from another, but from ourselves. The knowing happens inside us. Another was just on the path. The other can be a reason but she cannot make you grow. The other can set an example, or be a guide but never make us grow.

Namaste.

Emotion: The Ultimate Delay

It requires much attention and patience to return to the focus of becoming the person you want to be, which is hopefully the best you can be. Not only does remaining focused on that objective help you, but it improves your relationship as well. It keeps things flowing smoothly between you and your partners, rather than rocky and full of disturbances. Many of our painful discourses come about due to taking a situation personally. We fail to realize the other person’s feelings, and thus tend to take things on a personal level. Sometimes the stupidest arguments are due to a lack of remembrance. When I forget that I am loved, it is then that I allow emotions to come in between. But thankfully that moment passes and then I am back on track. Not to mention, it helps when our partner goes with the flow, and allows our change, without clinging. Ever grateful for that! Our automatic tendency is to dwell on our feelings, rather than allowing the emotion to step in and pass. We step on a rock, and it is like if we don’t stop and dwell in the pain caused, we feel incomplete. That painful moment takes the entire day to get past, and by the time we pass it, we have wasted so much energy that there is little left to use on our journey, forcing us to give up and resume our travels the next day. When confronted with a situation where you find that it turns back to you, recognize you have peace inside which you may not be able to feel at that moment but you have felt some other moment, and you are loved even though you may not feel it in that exact moment; proceed from there. It may take a bit, but remind yourself not to waste too much energy on your emotions, so that it can be used on more productive things. Remind yourself that you have been through these moments before and they passed. Remind yourself that the less you linger on it, the faster you can get back on your track.

Spiritual Sexuality.

Is sex and spirituality connected? If so, how? Where does a person draw the line between sex and spirituality? Or, is there a line at all? How can sex be a spiritual thing? Do religions talk about sex as spiritual? Where do they draw the line in sex being not religious anymore? Is being a sexual being so different from being a spiritual being?

Sex can be lifted into a complete different plane. There I don’t believe there is any line between a sexual person and a spiritual person. Both people experience the same bliss. Or rather, the experience both people experiences will be the same, even though the path they took was different. I believe that both are 2 parts of the same coin. Both parts together or separately give you experiences of consciousness. The peak into the state of bliss is the opening of the consciousness.

A person decides for himself what lifts him up in his consciousness. For ex: a person may find himself to be uplifted in his spiritual phase when he prays. Another person feels the same when he sings. So, just like it is different for different people in the experience of spirituality, or his connection to the being; it is different for different people in the experience of sexuality!

Even though I believe that its when a male and a female being one would make the right connection, as both the yin-yang are present; I could be wrong. I said I could be wrong because both yin and yang is present in a person. A male has both the male and the female energy “chi” in him and a female has both in her too!

Speaking from the lower phase I believe that people and religions try to draw a line between sex and spirituality. For ex: fellatio is considered to be a sin according to some religions. The religions draw a line there. It is forbidden! Forbidden because they believe that it degrades the spiritual point of sex. But then how can a person or a religion draw the line if the act of sex itself was lifted to a realm above, say a realm where sex is spirituality itself and there is no question of separation between them?

Sex is not something that man made for himself. Man just found out the secret! The secret of experiencing the experience thru sex and it became more than just an experience for him. It opened the door of consciousness for him. It took him to a realm far above than he thought he could go. It took him deep into his consciousness. The pleasure didn’t pull him down just into his physical being, but it took him to a mental and spiritual being of bliss. There he found his true self.

Namaste!