Living SEX

I have to say that one of the most taboo words is sex, even when sex is one of the most done thing in the world. How hypocritical! People looking at sex as something bad have created so much confusion in the society. It is true that we all love it, but most of the time the conditioning we have gone through makes us fear what we love- “sex”. The word itself creates a lot of desire in us, and also anti-desire.

We need to understand that we are sexual beings. It is natural for most of us. The craving is a part of who we are. All these conditioning of religions, society, everything created a dam inside us. The dam which stops our sexuality shouldn’t have been built in the first place. So suddenly when we cry out for complete sexual freedom that creates a lot of confusion, and problems. The dam was already built. Now what we can do is to let it open and let the sexuality flow, flow in a smooth manner. The dam needs to be destroyed slowly. It is when sudden sexual freedom is granted that one does not know what to do with it. He shows no obligation to himself or those around him. That is when he destroys himself with his sexuality. But when it is understood slowly, taking one’s own time, experiencing it in the true self, that is when the conditioning slowly disappears and one lives the sex life in a responsible creative manner.

All conditioning, all fear of sex goes away gradually. The conflict that was created down through centuries dissolves away. We start to see sex as a natural thing. We start to live the beauty of sex. If we understood life better, if people who talks about life had only understood life better, they would had said how beautiful sex was- not to be feared and hated, but to be loved and cherished. It is this unity of two that brings a new life into being.

Life and sex cannot be separated. One can say that he is free from all sexual thoughts with years of suppression, but does suppression mean freedom? We are truly free from sex when one understands sex completely. When we understand sex, there is no more suppression anymore. We see sex from a greater perspective. We see sex as one of the many paths that leads to a persons true self when practiced with responsibility, the pure consciousness.

Namaste.

One's Growth.

The growth in spirituality differs in different person. The personalities differ. One may be so wise and experienced while the other is so young. I am at the younger stage of my spirituality. The fight is going inside me; the fight between the consciousness and the mind. The harmony has to be reached. It takes time, patience and experience to reach there. One who thinks he reached there soon and thinks only of himself is a fool! He doesn’t see that that thought about his own self itself is a sign that shows his lack of wisdom.

Passion is a good trait but sometimes passion can make you blind to consciousness. Passion can do harm as much as it can do well. When one deals with passion one has to be careful and listen to the consciences inside. The stability has to be reached. The uncontrolled untamed passion can lead one to self destruction; his ability to listen to his inner self.

One reaches different levels by observing and experiencing and growing thru it. Growing doesn’t mean “use and spit” policy. Growing happens when you are able to learn something thru the experience. Times do come when we all feel unstable, and faith is us is what would guide us thru those times. The faith in ourselves, faith in our guide, our consciousness. When one listens to ones consciousness one will not be able to harm another. But then if we decide our mind to manipulate our beliefs then we may do harm to others as well. And also thinking of ourselves only is not about consciousness.. That trait is of selfishness... when we think of our own growth; and nothing else! We may not be able to make another grow, but we can certainly show a path, an example.

There was a time when I believed that another can make you grow. Not anymore. I now believe that another cannot make us grow but us ourselves. What we gained is not from another, but from ourselves. The knowing happens inside us. Another was just on the path. The other can be a reason but she cannot make you grow. The other can set an example, or be a guide but never make us grow.

Namaste.