Emotion: The Ultimate Delay

It requires much attention and patience to return to the focus of becoming the person you want to be, which is hopefully the best you can be. Not only does remaining focused on that objective help you, but it improves your relationship as well. It keeps things flowing smoothly between you and your partners, rather than rocky and full of disturbances. Many of our painful discourses come about due to taking a situation personally. We fail to realize the other person’s feelings, and thus tend to take things on a personal level. Sometimes the stupidest arguments are due to a lack of remembrance. When I forget that I am loved, it is then that I allow emotions to come in between. But thankfully that moment passes and then I am back on track. Not to mention, it helps when our partner goes with the flow, and allows our change, without clinging. Ever grateful for that! Our automatic tendency is to dwell on our feelings, rather than allowing the emotion to step in and pass. We step on a rock, and it is like if we don’t stop and dwell in the pain caused, we feel incomplete. That painful moment takes the entire day to get past, and by the time we pass it, we have wasted so much energy that there is little left to use on our journey, forcing us to give up and resume our travels the next day. When confronted with a situation where you find that it turns back to you, recognize you have peace inside which you may not be able to feel at that moment but you have felt some other moment, and you are loved even though you may not feel it in that exact moment; proceed from there. It may take a bit, but remind yourself not to waste too much energy on your emotions, so that it can be used on more productive things. Remind yourself that you have been through these moments before and they passed. Remind yourself that the less you linger on it, the faster you can get back on your track.

Spiritual Sexuality.

Is sex and spirituality connected? If so, how? Where does a person draw the line between sex and spirituality? Or, is there a line at all? How can sex be a spiritual thing? Do religions talk about sex as spiritual? Where do they draw the line in sex being not religious anymore? Is being a sexual being so different from being a spiritual being?

Sex can be lifted into a complete different plane. There I don’t believe there is any line between a sexual person and a spiritual person. Both people experience the same bliss. Or rather, the experience both people experiences will be the same, even though the path they took was different. I believe that both are 2 parts of the same coin. Both parts together or separately give you experiences of consciousness. The peak into the state of bliss is the opening of the consciousness.

A person decides for himself what lifts him up in his consciousness. For ex: a person may find himself to be uplifted in his spiritual phase when he prays. Another person feels the same when he sings. So, just like it is different for different people in the experience of spirituality, or his connection to the being; it is different for different people in the experience of sexuality!

Even though I believe that its when a male and a female being one would make the right connection, as both the yin-yang are present; I could be wrong. I said I could be wrong because both yin and yang is present in a person. A male has both the male and the female energy “chi” in him and a female has both in her too!

Speaking from the lower phase I believe that people and religions try to draw a line between sex and spirituality. For ex: fellatio is considered to be a sin according to some religions. The religions draw a line there. It is forbidden! Forbidden because they believe that it degrades the spiritual point of sex. But then how can a person or a religion draw the line if the act of sex itself was lifted to a realm above, say a realm where sex is spirituality itself and there is no question of separation between them?

Sex is not something that man made for himself. Man just found out the secret! The secret of experiencing the experience thru sex and it became more than just an experience for him. It opened the door of consciousness for him. It took him to a realm far above than he thought he could go. It took him deep into his consciousness. The pleasure didn’t pull him down just into his physical being, but it took him to a mental and spiritual being of bliss. There he found his true self.

Namaste!

Should I stay or should I go?

One of the hardest parts of a relationship is letting go. How do we know that it is time?
When answering this question, ask your self, “Am I happy?”

People tend to believe that we should be in a relationship all of our lives. The normal motto is “until death do us part.” (In the physical sense) But we believe emotionally and mentally as well. If you find that you are no longer happy, you both have tried all that you can to save the relationship, and it just can not be done, then its time to move on. The biggest clue that it is time to move on is the decrease in happiness experienced. Irregardless of the length of the relationship, one year or fifty, if you find that you are no longer happy, then that is a sign that its time to move on.

Remember your purpose. We are here to grow.

Every relationship that we are involved in, are stepping stones towards being the best that we can be. When it gets to the point, if ever, that we are moving backwards rather than forwards, then it is time to let go.

Remember to follow yourself, your consciousness, your guide. Don’t allow others opinions of how you should live your life, what is right or wrong, guide you. Let your inner self guide you. Listen to what it says. If it says its time to move on, then its time to move on. Don’t linger, or find excuses. Allow yourself to leave, so that you can continue with your growth. Only by letting go, can you begin to connect to happiness once more. Irregardless of what society or everyone else thinks. Be you.

Let happiness guide you in all that you do. Do whatever it is that makes you happiest at each moment. This happiness is love. This love, is God.

Namaste.